It seems like a lifetime ago that I sat at our dining room table one evening in February, calling loved ones to let them...
Be flexible. As we are learning from the current ever-changing news cycle, things change rapidly. Make a schedule — and set goals, because kids need to know what to expect — but be willing to hold it loosely, and adapt to what your kids are communicating. If they're having a blast building Legos, don't move things along to get to "requirements." Don't be so hell-bent on a particular goal that you miss the bigger lesson your kids are learning about kindness and care for others.
If what you’re doing feels overwhelming, pick one part of it that you CAN do. Prioritize and decide what the most important, necessary pieces are — instead of what would be the ideal. (Cue the song from Daniel Tiger: “When something is hard to do, try it a little bit at a time.”)
It is well known that New Year's resolutions seldom work out (80% of people do not keep them). So how about we consider something different for this year's transition from 2019 into 2020?
Summer is full of unfulfilled promises we made to ourselves during the spring about what we would do once the weather turned warmer. If you’re anything like us, you didn’t hold yourself to your promises this summer. Still, we had fun not doing much at all and not meeting our goals. Here’s where we fell short.
Now, as an adult, and 17 years after that first win, I get even more satisfaction from watching the Patriots crush their opponents every playoff season. Why? Because of the absolute laser focus of this team. Year after year it is still incredible and is truly so far above anything that has ever been seen in sports before. How they do it is really so simple. They make a plan, execute a plan, and achieve the goal.
Now, I'm not really one for resolutions — far too many of them focus on superficial changes, drastic results, and unrealistic expectations. And they are often setups for failures and disappointment. This year, however, I'm going to dare to be different. I'm going to take on a mini-resolution. I'm going to try to make this the year of yes.
Keeping one New Year's resolution for an entire year is not a strong point of mine. This year, I have decided to make a bucket list instead. Small goals that are attainable. Things I can cross off when they are accomplished. Ideas that will not leave me feeling like a failure come Dec. 31. Activities to do with my kids. Adventures to share with loved ones. Books to read. Recipes to make. A list. A simple list. Not an idea that will pass with each day.
Before the school year began, we called a Family Goals Meeting over pizza, fruit, and juice boxes. Then we went to the whiteboard to hash out the goals.